Navigating Heartache: Using Therapy to Find New Beginnings



Breakups can be devastating and leave people feeling a range of emotions, from sadness to anger and guilt. These mixed emotions can cause excessive worry and anxiety about the future, leading to difficulty concentrating or sleeping.

It’s normal to feel disoriented and overwhelmed in the wake of a breakup, as well as changes in appetite. This can make coming to terms with what has happened even more difficult, as everyday life becomes a challenge in itself.  It can make getting through each day very difficult and that’s before trying to come to terms with what has happened!

But it’s important to remember that there is still hope and possibility for you. If you’re struggling with heartache following a breakup, therapy can help you find new beginnings – and a path to restored confidence, resilience, and enjoying a new chapter you’ve created which is wonderfully fulfilling.

It’s never easy when relationships end, but it also opens opportunities for growth and transformation. Instead of feeling trapped by sadness or regret, it helps to keep in mind that each moment offers the chance to create something new – something that is authentic and meaningful for where you are now.

Therapy can provide valuable tools and guidance towards embracing these possibilities. When an individual comes to me because of a relationship breakup, I use EMDR therapy which is an innovative psychotherapy that focuses on alleviating emotional distress quickly. It’s surprising how quickly they feel better, but it doesn’t stop there.

They often confront their own negative patterns and beliefs which allows them to heal old wounds and cultivate self-acceptance. This period of reflection enables a greater understanding of one’s internal landscape, giving insight into their needs and desires, while also providing courage to face difficult feelings such as anger, fear, guilt, and shame.

Additionally, breaking up helps people recognize how strong they are in the face of challenge while teaching them important lessons about resilience and personal growth. By embracing the spiritual opportunities that come with heartache, individuals have the potential to come out stronger on the other side and create something beautiful from the ashes of their loss.

It’s common to believe that time alone is great healer when it comes to breakups; however, coping with heartbreak without seeking external support can be an incredibly difficult experience. Although it may seem easier try just “get over” your ex in one’s own time; this approach often fails address underlying issues and buried emotions associated with breakup, leading long-term pain & depression as these remain unprocessed.

Without therapy someone may find themselves stuck unhealthy patterns or destructive thoughts related ex or breakup – painfully aware of what lost and unable let go or move on without assistance – making finding experienced therapy essential step forward begin process healing and recovery.


If you need a little bit of helpful advice from other women who have been where you are right now, here goes:

“You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.” – Maya Angelou

“Happiness is an inside job.” – Oprah Winfrey

“If we make it through December, everything’s gonna be all right, I know.” – Joni Mitchell

“Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.” – Shannon L. Alder

“It takes immense courage for a person to walk away from the familiarity of toxic relationships and choose themselves instead.” – Lalah Delia